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Enjoying our first snow fall of the year.

By Claudette Chenevert on Dec 6, 2009 | In Stepfamilies, Relationships | Send feedback »

I'm sitting in my wonderful kitchen, which overlooks our backyard forest. The sun is shining on our snow-covered yard and that warms my heart. I love the first snow of the year (and this will probably be the only one, considering we live in VA). Everything look so pure and clean, so simple. It's very serene and peaceful.

Yesterday, I had the privilege to have my granddaughter and her brother spend the afternoon with us. I say her brother because he has a different dad that she does (who is my son) but he doesn't care because he calls us "Grand-mere" and "Papa" the names the kids call us by. We love these kids very much and welcome this little brother of our granddaughter with open arms.

You see, he didn't ask to have a complicated life but just to be loved. He doesn't have a chance to see his grandparents and extended family very much. His sister comes to our house every week and we do have fun. We do crafts, play games and read a lot together. Poor little fellow sees his big sister leave to go to her grandma and yet he stays home with his mom.

Life is complicated for adults but for little ones, it's incomprehensible. They don't understand that there are expectations adults have around what families should look like, what they are suppose to do and not. In his poor little head, he is probably wondering why he doesn't get to do all kinds of fun things his sister gets to do.

Yesterday, the kids asked us if they could both come in our RV to the beach like we had done over the summer. Their faces were glowing as they remembered the few days we spent having fun. My heart was in turmoil as my head is saying, but he isn't even my grandchild! You know what? He loves me just as much as his grandmother and I know for sure he never said to himself, "well, you are not my real grandmother!". These kids love unconditionally. We just need to love them back.

So after making a huge snowman, snow angels and riding a sleigh, we come back into the house, have a hot coco, watch "Frosty the Snowman" and just enjoy each others company.

When Mom came to get them, the kids told her they had the best time ever and that they love coming to Grand-mere's and Papa's house. Like the snow that I am looking at, these kids are pure and serene, innocent and loving. What more could I ask for on a beautiful day like today?

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